Recently I decided to try my hand at online dating. I know. I know. While not much dating has been going on, there has been some communication.
My plan is this…communicate with those who have a high match percentage and then, only those that have photographs. Let’s be honest…stranger danger is an important consideration. You have to place a reasonable amount of trust in the process and in your potential matches. If you can’t trust the process enough to add a photo, then it usually means there is something to hide. Not the something like you are secretly George Clooney but something like a little gold band around your fourth finger to the left.
Once communication has begun, then I give it a fair shot to see how engaging they are in conversation. I’m naturally very inquisitive and therefore purposely ask open ended questions. If the answers are closed or they never ask a question of me then it indicates the intent is simply not there on their side or they are just very private making it next to impossible to learn about them.
Very select few…maybe less than few will get my email address to communicate with outside of the site. From there a precious few may get my phone number or I agree to meet. Maybe I’m doing it wrong, however I do not see a reason to just go on a slew of dates. I would rather use a vetting process and narrow the field to just the seemingly viable candidates.
Recently a man with whom I had been messaging with, asked my thoughts on a few issues. I shared freely, albeit diplomatically. He then proceeded to tell me that I am an “opinionated woman.” Ummmm…is that a bad thing?
The thoughts, beliefs and ideas I have are based upon firsthand personal experience and are adhered to out of a confidence in understanding my innermost needs and desires. I don’t challenge others as much as I try to understand their ideas and feelings.
While I admit to being mildly stubborn it only usually pertains to me and my personal doggedness about getting things done.
I’m reasonably open minded and it’s important to me that I take into consideration others thoughts and ideas and show respect to those who share them with me.
So I pose the question…is a strong, capable, confident, self-aware woman the same as an opinionated woman? To that I reply with a very opinionated Pffft! ❤